Bedwetting is one of the most common issues even years after you have completed "potty training". According to education.com, 20% of children age 5, 10% of children age 7 and 5% of children age 10 still wet the bed at night. This is a very common issue that is not really discussed as a society. Here are the Top 3 Mistakes Parents Make:
Waking Your Child
When you wake your child at night it hinders their progress. The main way it hinders them is by transferring the responsibility of staying dry from the child to the parent. The child will learn to be responsible for emptying their bladder with an alarm vs. a parent waking them. These alarms are recommended by the MAYO CLINIC as the first solution for bedwetting.
Children naturally have a lot of emotions when it comes to bedwetting. As you can imagine...embarrassment, shame, and guilt all come with the territory. Then, they have to muster up the courage to tell you they have wet the bed and sheets need to be changed. Some children go as far as putting towels on their bed to avoid telling their parents what is happening. All in all, punishing your child when they already feel devastated is not effective.
When you have more than one child it is so hard not to compare them. It is even harder when the younger one has dry nights and the older child is still struggling. When the child is compared to a sibling it leads to embarrassment and low self esteem. It turns the conversation into a negative situation where the child may shut down entirely when confronted. Helping them feel supported and encouraged is the key to entering the learning process when it comes to dryer nights.
What do you do if you have already started these top 3 mistakes?
Focus on sitting down with your child one on one. Let them know you are aware that they are unable to control it and you are here to help. Having this conversation opens up the lines of communication and acceptance. They may be more willing to work with alarms when they know they are supported and are not alone.
If they seem completely against wearing something at night there are pad alarm options that will stay on the bed and alarm when the pad comes in contact with liquid. This is a great solution for when your child is a deep sleeper or just not thrilled about attaching the alarm.