Here are the TOP 5 things I wish someone had told me before having our first.
- Society is harsh to Mothers.
Somehow, mothers are shamed both for staying at home and for working. We are constantly confined to what society deems as a good or bad mother. Most of the time the "rules" contradict each other. I wish I knew that you will get mom-shamed no matter how good or bad you are as a parent. Do what is best for you and your child and let that be the deciding factor. Every single child on this planet is vastly different from every other child. Remember, you are their mother and you are much more aware of their needs than society.
- Advice is everywhere.
Your mother, your friends, your distant cousin... and yes, even that stranger in the grocery store. They all are full of advice for how to raise your child. Google is your best friend and worst enemy. Take in all the advice and again, do what is best for you and your child.
- Gas drops/gripe water are LIQUID GOLD.
These two items really helped calm my children when they were infants. These were the biggest must haves in our go bags. These help relieve gas and crankiness. Note: this is advice. See above for what to do.
- Exhaustion is not a strong enough word.
Being a mom comes with a lot of challenges. Late nights, unbelievable messes and only one thing is consistent...exhaustion. Most days that word is not strong enough.
- More LOVE than you could ever imagine.
Momhood is full of LOVE. Cherish the fun times in the midst of chaos. They view you as the most important source of attention. There are days it will be easy to forget just how much love you have for them. Take a moment each day and soak up the love.
Those are the top five things I wish I knew before having children. There are now so many resources out there to help us in the jungle of motherhood. Hopefully, we were able to help you in your journey as a new mom!